What we do and what we believe in are very different things. Every day we go moment by moment thinking and doing and this cycle is forever ongoing. The need for action is a need for results. We only need to force upon our world a sense of control because we worry that we cannot influence it by sitting still. These are rightly so the individual can express their needs or desires for a life they wish to lead. We do not ask for better grades but instead we work and study to ensure that we are compliant with the rules or boundaries imposed on the subject. For example a teacher who is dictating spelling to a class will ask them to be able to recite this verbally or in writing for an exam. Ensuring our success within each subsequent subject aligns us with a future goal we set ourselves.
We often are in two minds when it comes to making decisions for the future. The reason for this is that the mind has taught itself to think in two ways. From an early age, we are given the choice of good or bad, black and white, exciting and calm and so on. With these we generally form an idea of what choice are truly ours to make. Therefore we come to a decision we weigh up the pros and cons of a venture and choose the best path that we can. The need to step outside of ourselves is lessened when we outline this path. What I mean by this is that, we often tell each other to step into someone else’s shoes for a moment to understand their actions and behaviours. However we fail to do this to ourselves as we believe we know ourselves better than others. The fact of the matter is that we often are unaware of how we will take to a decision until after we have the experience or have felt the consequences of our actions. We often believe that it was for the best in either case and move on to our next decision. When we make a decision we find ourselves learning and living for a brighter life.
The prerequisite for underachieving in our lifetime is to compare ourselves to those of similar characteristics. These are not favourable to ourselves in all circumstances. We often pull ourselves back from a winning situation in order to let others feel loved, cherished, appreciated or even accepted. An elder brother may downplay his achievement of winning the local fun run if it is so his younger brother can feel relevant to the conversation when his parents are busy coveting the older child. This so happens to be the cause for underachieving in a wide range of aspects of our lives. We tend to herd ourselves in with those because we believe in safety with numbers, but what we forget is that the tendency to do what is best for ourselves can propel others forward too.
It’s more often than not that we find our truth in what we think than what we say or do. We find ourselves acting differently in the world external to ourselves but internally our dreams, passions and interests tell us otherwise; we are capable of so much more and we are afraid of challenging ourselves in the external despite a constant struggle internally to let ourselves be free. We do things that are not in alignment with our wishes and we suffer for a lack of decision or belief that could have been avoided. Our main goals in life are solidified in our hearts and minds but we are unwilling to step out and let thoughts roam free. We are simple in our hearts and minds yet we exceedingly place others ahead of us when it is unnecessary. If we replicate our actions from what we want to do, we become true to ourselves and replicate our dreams and passions in real life.